gotta get happy therapy

I’m just thinking out loud here, but let’s see if there is a lesson in the events of the last few days. Why pay a doctor when blog therapy is free…

 

Think of three people that are really happy. I’ve got my three and here is what I think they each have in common:

 First they have a healthy sense of self — they know who they are. Each of my people are unique, sometimes quirky people, who embrace their right to be happy. They are the reason that happiness is associated with fresh air and sunshine. None of my people are excuse makers. They may give a reason for why something has or hasn’t happened, but it’s just that – a reason. They don’t hide behind all kinds of sad stories of woe and victimization. Alright, I’m on a roll here… each of these people are happy when the people around them are happy. They clearly live with the understanding that there is lots of happiness to go around and that they don’t have to compete with others in order to hang on to their portion of happiness.Finally, the people that I am thinking of enjoy other people. They have lots of friends that really love them. They are good listeners and they want to be of value to the people around them. Oh, and here is something else that could be important… they all expect the best from the people around them. So how does this relate to the last few days? Well… I have a person who is NOT happy. I’m not going to get into who it might be, but you will have to trust me she is just never happy. Looking at the above list I can honestly say that she is the exact opposite of all the things above. So a while back I decide that it was not healthy for me to have this person in my life, however for reasons that can’t be helped she is, to some extent, back. And of course letting her in even just a little bit has wreaked havoc on my psyche. I have had a head ach for days and it gets worse every time I have to be made aware of something that involves her. She is playing all kinds of games, telling lies, and then sending e-mails with lists of all the reason that others should feel sorry for her. Honestly it’s just too much and I am feeling forced to go back to my original plan – it’s just not healthy to have her in my life. When she is around I am just not good at being happy and I really want to be like the people that I have been thinking about above. I want to be happy. My husband, my kids, and I deserve for me to feel and be happy. However knowing that and actually doing what needs to be done are two different things. But as the therapist that I have seen on TV say, “That’s good progress for now and we will have to continue to explore this at the next visit.” Good thing I’m not paying for this – hey?